Sleep can be challenging for some babies, especially those with a more challenging temperament such as FOMO, which stands for ‘Fear of Missing Out’. FOMO babies are highly alert and curious and always wanting to engage with their surroundings. They find it hard to settle into sleep because they don’t want to miss out on any action.
When I’m chatting with parents about their little one’s sleep, they often say to me, “My baby is tired but just refuses to nap or to go to sleep!” If this is you, your little one might be experiencing FOMO.
Have a look at the common FOMO symptoms and if you are thinking ‘OMG YES! This is my baby’ then read on for some ways to help your FOMO baby sleep.
7 Signs Your Baby Has FOMO
Before diving into sleep solutions, let’s explore the common signs of a FOMO baby. Identifying these traits can help you understand why your baby resists sleep.
1. Struggles to Relax with Common Soothing Activities
While other babies may calm down with nursing, rocking, or patting; FOMO babies often resist these soothing techniques. They are more interested in what’s happening around them than in winding down and relaxing.
2. Easily Distracted in New Places
FOMO babies get excited in unfamiliar environments and love interacting with the world. A trip to a grandparent’s house, for example, might result in even harder or shorter naps, as your baby takes in all the new sights and sounds.
3. Distracted Feeder
Feeding a FOMO baby can be tricky, especially in public or stimulating environments. They’re often too busy looking around to stay focused on nursing or finishing a bottle.
4. No Obvious Sleepy Signs
FOMO babies often don’t show signs of getting tired until they’re overtired. By the time they begin to cry or fuss, they’ve missed the window for easily falling asleep, leading to even more resistance.
5. Resistance to Sleep Routines
Routine is essential for sleep, but FOMO babies will resist bedtime and nap routines because they don’t want to settle down. Even if you’ve created a calming routine, these babies fight the wind-down process, making the whole process so frustrating.
6. Light Sleeper
Even when they finally do fall asleep, FOMO babies tend to wake easily. Any light coming into the room or the slightest noise can mean they are then awake and impossible to re-settle back down.
7. Always on the go
FOMO babies are curious and alert. They never sit still. They often stay awake for even longer if you are out and about as they don’t want to miss a thing.
How to Help Your FOMO Baby Sleep
Sleep is harder for babies our FOMO babies. And FOMO is a temperament trait that doesn’t simply go away, but there are ways to support your baby in developing better sleep habits.
Having worked with many FOMO babies, I’ve got 6 practical tips which will make your life easier. While there’s no “magic bullet,” these strategies can make sleep easier for your FOMO baby.
Create a Boring Sleep Environment
Your FOMO baby’s brain is constantly seeking stimulation. To counteract this, create a calming and distraction-free environment for sleep. Use blackout blinds to block out any light and remove anything that could be a distraction such as toys or mobiles in the crib.
White noise machines can also help by masking sudden noises that might wake your baby. The goal is to make their sleep space as boring as possible, so they have no choice but to settle down.
Stick to a Consistent Routine
FOMO babies (indeed most babies) thrive on consistency. Creating a predictable sleep routine for naps and bedtime is particularly important for FOMO babies. Have 4 activities that you can do in the same order every single day and stick to it. This might include calming activities such as reading a book, dimming the lights and using a consistent bedtime cue like a sleep sack or a certain lullaby.
Over time, these cues will help signal to your baby that it’s time to sleep. As FOMO babies often don’t have obvious sleep cues it is usually better to follow a more structured routine for nap timings. While it may take weeks to see progress, stick with the routine as it’s key to success with sleep for a FOMO baby.
Focus on Sensory Input
FOMO babies are often sensory seekers, which means they need a lot of sensory input throughout the day to regulate their nervous system. They crave movement and sensory stimulation and these needs to be met before any attempt to sleep.
For younger babies, incorporating activities like tummy time, rolling, swaddling and deep pressure massage into their daily routine will help.
For older babies and toddlers, jumping, spinning, bouncing, swaying, crawling or carrying a loaded back pack to offer some resistance can all help provide that extra sensory input.
My guide ‘Simple Sensory Strategies to Improve Your Child’s Sleep’ is full of ideas and examples for providing different types of sensory input for FOMO sensory-seeker babies.
Having helped hundreds of families with sleep, I’ve seen that adding in the right sensory input over the course of the day is often a big part of the puzzle for improving sleep and navigating sleep resistance.
This sensory stimulation helps them feel more satisfied and regulated meaning that settling is easier and quicker (with a lot less tears and stress) and requires a lot less movement or endless bouncing or 40 minutes of vigorous rocking.
Adapt Wake Windows
Standard wake windows might not work for your FOMO baby. They often need less sleep than average and can happily stay awake for longer between naps. Look at how long it takes your baby to fall asleep and if it’s consistently more than 20 minutes try extending the wake window between naps. Aim for your baby to fall asleep within 10-15 minutes and as your baby grows, remember to adjust the wake window to meet their changing needs.
Prioritize the First Nap
A strong first nap can set the tone for the day. If possible, have the first nap of the day at home in a calm, distraction-free environment. This helps establish a solid nap routine. If later naps happen on the go, that’s okay, but make the first one a priority to ensure your baby is well-rested for the rest of the day.
Stay Calm and Patient
One of the hardest parts of parenting a FOMO baby is managing your own frustration. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed when your baby fights sleep day after day. Remember that FOMO is part of your baby’s personality and it’s not a reflection of your parenting skills.
Try to stay calm during sleep routines and give yourself grace if things don’t go perfectly. It’s so much easier to help your child calm down and wind down ready for sleep if you are grounded and feeling calm yourself.
Conclusion
Helping a FOMO baby sleep requires a mix of consistency, persistence, and creativity. With the right strategies in place, you can support your baby toward better, more restful sleep while helping them feel secure that they’re not missing out on anything important!
You Don’t Have To Do It Alone
If you have a FOMO baby or a child with a more sensitive or spirited temperament, you may have already found that feel that sleep changes are hard. These babies are highly aware and easily stimulated, which can make settling and night waking more complex and it doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong.
Inside my 6-week sleep coaching program The Good Night Sleep System, one of the first things we look at before making chnages is your baby’s temperament. There’s a dedicated lesson on understanding how temperament affects sleep because gentle changes work best when they’re tailored to your baby, not a one-size-fits-all approach.
The programme offers daily support, weekly coaching calls and a personalised plan to help you move towards long stretches and more independent sleep.
I offer a free sleep assessment call to talk through what’s happening and see if it’s the right fit for your family.
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